Finding The One

romaticloveThere are a lot of stories and ideas around finding the One, or Mr Right or your “other half “or even your “twin flame”. I don’t know about you, but for a long time it has kind of pissed me off, and until recently, I wasn’t really sure of what made me react in such a way. I could see it was a reaction, I just wasn’t sure about why.

Then I saw an image – it was just some words on a black background but it really spoke to me. It said:

” I’m not searching for my other half because I’m not a half”.

And it totally made sense to me. Yes that’s it! That’s what’s been bothering me. I don’t consider myself a half that is in NEED of someone else to be whole. I totally resent that idea.

So what have you bought or decided to believe that keeps you stuck in the reality that you NEED anyone? 

And I don’t mean it like you should go around in life and push people away since you don’t “need” anyone– believe me I have done my share of that, too. There have been times when I was never willing to receive and absolutely would not ask for help.

Is that really a kindness?

It’s not very kind to me to always have to do everything by myself and it isn’t very kind to others either. Given that they always have a choice to say no, by never asking, I never give anyone else the happiness of being able to contribute to me.

Don’t you really feel happy when you can be a contribution to someone you care about? I denied my friends that joy for the longest time. That is changing—step by step, I have to admit…

What if You are the One? 

What if what you were lead to believe you should search for from the outside is already within?

What if You are the One you have been searching for?

And what difference would it make if you knew that you are whole already?

What would then be possible, if you decided you wished to have a relationship? What if two wholes could be so much more than 1+1=2?

What if by being two that are already whole and complete you get to contribute and receive in ways you never thought possible, to be more of you with that person than without. To create awesome things together. To never diminish or divorce you to fit in.

And what if you were that dream lover with so much kindness and nurture to You? What would you choose then? Would you listen to your body more? Would you push it too hard, would you take a break and do something joyful? Would you start being kind to You?

Would you receive You—the One?

The processes and questions found in this text are from Access Consciousness which was founded by Gary Douglas and Dr. Dain Heer, and among other things is a set of tools which assist people in becoming more conscious about the way in which they move through the world.
You can find more information about Access by visiting or by getting in touch with me.
You can also contact me if you wish to delve deeper into this topic and receive facilitation.

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