Well lets start by looking at relationship. For me, relationship is usually constricted to this reality’s set of rules, and there is a long thick rulebook of how it’s supposed to be.
Add on the romantic notions of how it’s supposed to be, the fairytale version of the prince on the horse, and then that sexual thing that almost always makes us give up our awareness in totality. Have you ever noticed that as soon as the attraction is on and there is the possibility of sex so often are we willing to totally skip the awareness we might have in favor of just going ahead and have sex as we quickly decide we wish to.
In relationships we tend to mold, fold, mutilate ourselves to fit in. We anticipate, and try to figure out how we must be in order to get a man/woman and then to stay in relationship. In short we divorce ourselves, so we can be like everyone else and have a real relationship.
After 14 years of marriage, divorce, some Access classes and spending a year and a half with myself, I discovered that standard relationships do not work for me anymore. If the possibility to have a creationship is not there, Im not interested.
So creationship, what is that?
When I stopped diverting my energy around someone else, I had so much free energy to create. I had no idea it was so yummy orgasmic fun to create! It kind of made me realize that anything less is just not an option anymore. Creationship means two or more (whatever suites you) people that come together and truly contribute to each other in different ways. It’s not like now I give you this and you have to give me that back.
It’s a generosity of spirit to truly be happy for others, and having a real desire to contribute. It’s also about being willing to receive.
Do you get the total difference in contributing, gifting & receiving as opposed to giving and taking/demanding?
Also in a creationship kindness and ease are central. Ease does not always mean easy, doing the easy way out. Ease is way bigger than that. If it’s not creating an ease, an expansion, a lightness and loads of fun – why bother? And I do not mean someone should come and give this to you, no no you create that together – or else it’s not a creationship. And it doesn’t stop at the normal twosomeness relationship box – you can have a creationship with friends or business playmates (playmates here meaning creating and having fun, not copulation 😉
To truly create the type of creationship you desire means doing it without losing You. What if you could totally Be you, and actually feel more like you with that other/ those others than without?
Now that’s what Im talking about here.
When you contribute to each other in such a way you can expand and grow and Be more of You together than alone. I mean for what reason would you want anything less than that? To be like everybody else – yeah it’s working so well for them, huh?
I would say that a really good start would be to investigate what that means to you, and how much of that you are being for You.
What do you know that you are pretending not to know about creationship that if you would acknowledge you know it would change everything and give you everything you truly desire?
What do you know is possible way beyond the restricted limits of this reality in terms of relationship that would set you free?
Creationship is all about staying out of conclusion about what you and your partner/s ARE and being constantly in the question of what you’d like to become, Be and create together.
Doesn’t that sound like fun?
Here are some great inspirations:
There are 5 levels of intimacy described by Dr.Dain Heer in different books and tele calls also you can se a short video on youtube here
The processes and questions found in this text are from Access Consciousness which was founded by Gary Douglas and Dr. Dain Heer, and among other things is a set of tools which assist people in becoming more conscious about the way in which they move through the world.
You can find more information about Access by visiting www.accessconsciousness.com or by getting in touch with me.