Need or Desire


Language is an interesting thing. Let’s take a look at these two words, Need and Desire.

What would you say is the big difference between the two?

For me need is a little clingy. It’s based on the idea of lack, or the idea that something is missing. The energy of having a “need” is not expansive to say the least. It leaves us ”no choice” and the only way to respond is withdrawal or resistance. Have you ever had someone say “I need you.” How does that truly feel? In this reality, we confuse “I need you” with “I love you” or “I love to be around you”. These are very different things.

Desire on the other hand, has all the promise of expansive yumminess, it comes more out of curiosity than conclusion and is very inviting.

Say for instance that you need more money or you feel you need a man/woman in your life. There is an assumption that you can’t be happy without them.

How inviting and yummy is that? Not very. And yet I have been functioning from this space forever! I’ve also been so cute as to function from the opposite, which is “I don’t need anyone or anything!” That’s not very yummy either? Resistance, anyone?

What if there were a totally different choice?

What if you could have everything you really liked, or desired in your life and not come from the energy of need or lack, and not from the energy of “Don’t come near me. I don’t need you.”

What if the universe desired to gift you anything, and actually exceed it?

Would you be interested?

Would you be willing to find out what it is that you actually desire in and as your life, rather than copying what others have concluded you ”should” want? What if that Rolex, big house, boat, marriage, career (insert your goal of choice) isn’t really even remotely interesting to you?

A great way of getting to know what you desire (and also to get past envy) is to look around in magazines and at peoples homes, hotels, shops and  whatever you see that rises your juices, you say, “I’ll have that too!—just not all the other crap they have, but that thing I’ll have.

If you practice this, after a while, you’ll get a clearer awareness of what it is you actually like. You’ll also get more generous and happy for people to have great things.

What invitation can you and your body be to receive everything you desire with total ease?

Ask your body what it desires: Body, what clothes do you like? Body, which materials feel good on you? Body, what would you like to eat? Body, what do you desire? Body, show me who you wish to be intimate with?

You created a body for a reason! You know through the senses that it’s an excellent source of pleasure, and it’s through your body you experience the sensual. What if you could co-create your life WITH your body, and ask it what it desires to eat, rather than coming from conclusions of what would be good or tasty, or even what you ‘need’ to eat.

You might be surprised the way food tastes when it’s what your body desires! Have you ever heard the term “foodgasm”? That’s what it’s like!

Would you be interested in having an orgasmical pleasurable life and living? Your body knows how!

Get the difference between Need and Desire and let your body show you the way!

The processes and questions found in this text are from Access Consciousness which was founded by Gary Douglas and Dr. Dain Heer, and among other things is a set of tools which assist people in becoming more conscious about the way in which they move through the world. You can find more information about Access by visiting or by getting in touch with me.

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